Barack Get's It Right!

I don't agree with Obama on many (MANY) things, but he hits the nail on the head this time.

Do Somethin': The CW Challenge and Bodyflirting

Think what you want about Ms. Spears- I know I have my own opinions. But I think this video and it's message is very fitting. LOL.

In honor of CW's summer challenge, below please find some tips from Ginie Polo Sayles in terms of learning how to flirt using your body and body language. It's all about how to send messages to people and flirt without being overt. Confidence comes from doing and these tips really do work:

1. Get the idea out of your head that you can meet men only in certain places- men are everywhere. Count how many men are around you at all times. Being around men breeds being around men; men have a way of knowing when a woman his highly sought after.

2. Do the best with what you have, mind your appearance. Your grooming and appearance reflects your belief system about men, sex, and yourself.

3. When out and about ALWAYS sit next to the man; don't huddle or congregate with other women. Cross your legs and gently angle toward him. When he begins to angle back in your direction (give it a few minutes) smile or say "Hi."

I had a dear friend make this comment to me:

"I spent a decade with my sorority and various women-oriented groups, and working with and around men has been a welcome change. If you are still single and hoping to meet a motivated, ambitious and educated guy, I highly recommend some community work, Z. It took me a long time to make a jump into scary territory - let's face it, being women, we're pretty comfortable around women, motivating them, communicating to them, challenging them, etc. The kind of guys WE like to meet are out there "doing" too..."

The point is, don't be dependent on hanging around women. It may feel comfortable and make things easier, but it also might not get you where you want to be.

4. Step out of your comfort zone. Go out to breakfast or lunch by yourself at least once a week (vary the locations). Sit in the center of the room or at the center of attention. Don't bring any distractions with you (i.e. books, magazine, cell phones, Ipods, etc.).

5.Use your eyes as a tool. Look and than think in your head "Maybe I'd go to bed with you." Your facial expressions and body language will follow your thoughts. I know it sounds silly but, it works. And no it will not make you appear desperate!

So there you have it, now DO SOMETIN'!

Explain This To Me?

Please check out this link.

Why does Usher have to constantly defend his wife and his marriage? There are constantly rumors surrounding his marriage and his wife.

And why is Carson Daly still doing TRL?

I haven’t EVER seen anything like this before in my short life. Why is Tameka under constant attack?

Can’t people leave well enough alone? It’s not their relationship- it’s between Usher, Tameka, and their families.

Explain this to me because I don’t get it.

I'm At A loss For Words

I don't know what to say or how to respond to this.

Coming Home

As mentioned previously I do not like to discuss BM on this blog. Nonetheless I found this discussion on another blog and thought it was interesting...


Here’s Blair Underwood’s response to the “backlash” he faced from black fans after he appeared on Sex And The City:

"Underwood, the first African-American actor to join the sitcom’s predominantly white cast, played Miranda Hobbs’ boyfriend, Dr. Robert Leeds - a role which he claims didn’t meet the approval of some fans. But the Dirty Sexy Money star insists his female fans relented after learning he has been married to Desiree DaCosta, a black woman, for 13 years.

He says, ‘In terms of the black female audience, usually in your body of work if you’ve proven that you love your sisters and will come back home, they will give you a pass when you jump ship. I hear it all the time. I heard, “We’ll get you a pass because we know you’re married to a black woman."
Source

Hmmmmmm. I have my own ideas about this statement but I’d like to hear what you think.


Happy Memorial Day!

Are They Hatin' On The Black Girl?

Follow the link and check out this video from ABC's the bachelor.

http://www.dlisted.com/node/25269

Reality TV is built on stereotypes. Granted, I don't watch the bachelor so I'm not following what's going on with the contestants and the show. But in this clip from Monday night's show it seems to me that this woman, Marshana, got ganged up on. It seems as though the other females tried to pick a fight with her- over what isn't quite clear? How did this discussion escalate into such a confrontation?

It is also interesting to note that this is the furthest a sister has ever gone on the bachelor. I say this because the women in this clip are discussing the hometown dates. The hometown dates are usually reserved for the final 3 contestants. So for them to be disucussing this means they must be deep into the competition.

Were the other women trying to eliminate a threat?

Where To Find Good Men?

Over on Pinky's blog there is an interesting blogpost about a radio discusssion she heard on Dr. Laura's program. Dr. Laura apparently ended the discussion advising that you should go where the “quality men” are in your area who would most likely meet your needs. I think this advice is pretty sound.

So where would these men be?

- In church. Getting active in your church can be a great way to meet quality, moral, and traditional minded men. I know lack of male attendance plagues many black churches so this may mean visiting or attending another church or religious center in a different area. I believe that Catholic, Christian, and Jewish men are often very marriage and family oriented.

-At work. Think about it, you're around like minded career/goal oriented people for about 8 hours everyday! If you are opposed to having an office romance, consider the networking opportunities you have available to you through your field of interest.

-Alumni societies. I know many who met their current partners through involvement in activities with their almuni organizations. You both went to the same school so you are likely to have the same level of education and shared interests. One thing you'll definitely have in common are memories from good old state!

-School. Undergrad or graduate.

-In your neighborhood. One of my good friends met her fiance in the elevator of her apartment complex! They lived right next door to eachother. If you live in a good neighborhood this might be a great place to meet like minded individuals who are also on your socio-economic level.

-The country club or an upscale gym. Sweat is sexy. If you can't afford the hefty dues at some luxury gyms see if you can work out a trial membership for 3 to 7 days and make the most of it!

-Segregated by industry. Know what type of guy you want and go where he will be. For example, I live in one of the US's major entertainment capitals. If I wanted to meet an agent I'd head to certain bars and restaurants in certain areas of town (i.e. Houston's Bar and Grill, Gulf Stream, Pink Taco, etc.) because that's where these guys usually end up after work for happy hour. If I wanted to meet a banker or a lawyer I'd head downtown. See where I'm going here.

I also think that Delishmish is right when she says:

Trust the flow Ladies..trust the flow, but be ready, the Universe will give you exactly what you want..so think about who you want..not who you don't want.

Once you are clear on what it is that you want, the universe will bend over backward to make it happen for you. Prayer requires persistence.

So that's my $.02. I'd love to keep a running list so feel free to add any tips or ideas you may have.